My definition of body shaming is when anyone makes unpleasant comment or criticism regarding someone else’s body. Yesterday, I was looking at Instagram posts regarding body shaming and self-love and I understood something: no matter what your size or your shape is, some people will always find something unpleasant to say in order to make you feel bad.
Last year, I weighed around 60-62kg, which is perfectly normal for my height, with a perfectly normal BMI. However, I was feeling bad in my own skin, with a little bit of extra stomach, love handles, and arm fat. I was working at 2 jobs at the time, days and night and was lacking sleep. I had no time to go to the gym other than on weekends, most of my meals were just sugar to keep me up throughout work. I received a lot of comments such as “you are fat”, “stop eating pizza, you’re gonna gain weight”, “stop eating so much chocolate”, “you are eating all this?” “Stop eating ice cream, you’re going to be fat”, “don’t eat so many muffins, you’re going to gain weight”, “your skin is loose”, “you should workout”, “this is not pretty”… There was so many I cannot sum everything here.
Now that I lost (a lot of) weight, I got others comments, such as “you look weak”, “we can see your bones”, “what? Do you really weight that? You need to gain weight”, “let me guess, you weight 35kg all wet right?”. I even got a Snapchat message after I posted a picture of my stomach from a boy I don’t know and I never met who said: “are you malnourished?” So I replied, “no, why are you asking that?”. He replied, “because your stomach is flatter than mine so you must be”. I was mad because he doesn’t know me, he is probably younger than me, we never met and he has no clue what my lifestyle is but he allowed himself to judge me, based on my appearance.
I wanted to write a short Instagram post on my story regarding this, but it is longer than anything I can post on social media. The thing is, no matter what you look like, no matter what you do, people will make comments, based on your ideas of physical appearance. Body shaming will always be around, no matter what, by boys (mostly, but girls can be really mean as well) who are insecure about their own body. So do not listen to them (unless they are your boy/girl/friends, and you are medically considered as obese or underweight, in that case, they care about you and want you to be healthy). People can be very mean, and it is your call to love yourself and to be confident enough to let go.
“Opinions aren’t facts. Stop worrying about what people think about you”